How do we create meaningful friendships?

How do we create meaningful friendships? Who is the right friend for you? Should your friends reflect you?

Lately, I’ve been really focused on finding a sense of community and the right friendships—those connections where we can truly relate to each other’s lifestyles. I’ve come to realize that to create meaningful friendships, I need to step out of my comfort zone and put myself in situations where I’m likely to meet people who share my interests. But what does that actually look like in practice?

For me, it means trying out new hobbies and activities that excite me. For instance, I’m planning to attend a Pilates class for the first time next week. I’ve always enjoyed working out, even though my consistency can vary. There’s something so rewarding about the gym, especially when I start to see those physical changes. I’m hopeful that Pilates will not only be a fun new workout but also a great opportunity to meet other women who share that same passion for fitness.

As I embark on this journey of building connections, I remind myself of the importance of being true to who I am. Authenticity is key; it builds trust and encourages those around me to be genuine as well. Understanding my own values, beliefs, and emotions is crucial when forming friendships.

I’ve also learned that differing perspectives can actually enrich a friendship. Even if we don’t see eye to eye on everything, those differences can bring about interesting conversations and growth. After all, opposites can attract, as long as the relationship is built on respect and open communication.

Ultimately, I believe that creating meaningful friendships is about being open, staying curious, and embracing both similarities and differences. It’s a journey, but I’m excited to see where it leads!

Below are a few steps on how to create those meaningful friendships:

Step 1: Self- Reflection

• Identify Your Values: Consider what's important to you in friendships ( e.g shared interest, honesty, support). Understand these interest that you enjoy.

  
  

Step 2: Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

• Try New Activities: Join clubs, classes or groups related to your interests. You can also attend several social events to meet new people.

  
  

Step 3: Be Open and Approachable

• Start conversations: Smile, make eye contact, and start conversations with open - ended questions ( trust me, this is hard if you are an introvert like me but don't be afraid! You'll be surprised by the turn around).

  
  

Step 4: Active Listening & Authentic Self

• Be Present & Respond Thoughtfully: Focus on the person speaking and show that you value their input by asking follow up questions or sharing related experiences.

  
  

• Be Vulnerable : Authenticity fosters deeper connections. Share your thoughts, feelings and experiences. Talk about your hobbies and passions, encouraging others to share theirs.

Step 5: Embrace Differences

• Appreciate Diverse Perspectives: Recognize that differing opinions can lead to enriching discussions. Approach differences with curiosity instead of judgement.

Step 6: Nurture the Friendship and Cultivate Trust

• Be Reliable and Respect Boundaries: Follow through on commitments while honoring the personal space and limits of others.

  
  

• Stay In Touch: Regularly check in with friends through texts, calls or meetups. Acknowledge birthdays, achievements, and special moments in their lives.